One Woman's Words

1. If you had to describe yourself in one word, which word would you use?

2. Do you have a favorite hobby and if so, care to share?

3. How long does it take you to get ready when going out?

4. What does your favorite meal consist of?

5. Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

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Current Mood: A little less idiotic.

Today's Lesson: Make sure you see the whole picture before reacting on only a part of it.

When looking at things, you need to have the whole picture to really get it. Having even the slightest part covered up or ignored will leave you with a distorted view, something not as reliable. For instance, take a piece of paper and draw the letter A on it. Now take your hand and cover up half of it. What once was a legible letter has now been reduced to merely a line. Such is life.

How often do we judge a situation based on a part or piece of the whole puzzle? How accurate can that judgment be? If we are failing to see the whole picture, we are setting ourselves up for what could prove to be a big mistake. Acting on just a piece of information usually proves to be the wrong thing to do. So often, I find myself running with what little info I get and it never fails...I end up looking like an idiot. To make the right decision, you must have all the facts, not just what you can get at the moment. It takes quite a bit of patience as the whole picture isn't usually thrown in your lap at once, but it takes time. You have to gather all the information, bit by bit before you go acting on it. This is a lesson I'm learning slowly, but the important thing is that I'm learning it. No more snap decisions based on an ounce of information for me because quite frankly, I'm tired of looking like an idiot.

-Jamie

Current Mood: Relieved.

Today's Lesson: A controlling man and an independent woman do not go hand in hand.

On my quest for my Mr. Right, I have come across my share of "Oh-So-Wrongs," the most recent being quite the doozy. This guy had control problems, he had power struggle issues, and was just plain not the one for me.

I noticed he had some issues when his jealous side reared it's head from time to time. Then he began attempting to tell me what to do. The last straw came when the words, "Because I said so" left his mouth. Now I already have a Dad, I don't need another one, but that's not the point. I noticed that he liked to be in control of things around him. He liked knowing what was going on. I started to wonder what made someone like this. I asked myself, why was this guy like he was?

Did he just have to be in control over everything? Did he enjoy bossing his girlfriends around? Or was it something much deeper? I started to think maybe he had self-confidence problems. Maybe by being "in charge" it charged his ego...made him feel more like a man. Then again, could it have been some form of OCD, having the need to control aspects of his life...feeling vulnerable if things weren't going the way he wanted them to? Then again, perhaps this was how he was raised, taught this behavior from his own father from very early on. Whatever the reason, I knew I couldn't stay with him. I couldn't help him and even if I could have, he didn't want my help. So here I am again, single and searching.

-Jamie